What is ORGASM AND WHY WE (WOMEN) LOVE IT Soooooo MUCH?
Unfortunately, some people adopt a take-it-or-leave-it attitude toward orgasms. But without orgasms, probably none of us would be here.After all, people have managed to hang onto this planet by reproducing themselves over the millennia just because men and women seek this intense instant of pleasure. Therefore, don’t take your orgasms for granted — you have a lot to thank them for.
Don’t think all orgasms are the same, either. Of course, men and women experience orgasms differently, but each orgasm you have will likely be different from your last one and your next one. You can have out-of-this-world orgasms or so-so orgasms.
Maybe you want to try to time your orgasm to your partner’s or have several orgasms in a row. If you want to have stronger orgasms, you can do a private little workout. You can find the details for all of this, and
more, in these posts.
Understanding orgasms is important because some women come to me wondering whether they’ve ever experienced one. For those of you who have experienced intense orgasms, this question may seem ridiculous. Many women, however, have never shared in this experience at all. Other women experience what is called a missed orgasm, in which the body goes through all the physical manifestations of an orgasm but the woman doesn’t really feel it. So whether they’ve just missed a passing orgasm or have never even come close, millions of women (and a few men) don’t even know what an orgasm is.
An orgasm is an intense feeling of physical pleasure that we human beings experience as the culmination of sexual stimulation. When you experience an orgasm, your breathing becomes fast and heavy, your pulse races, the deep muscles in the genital area contract, and your toes may even curl.
In men, orgasm is almost always accompanied by ejaculation, the forceful ejection of semen from the penis, necessary for procreation. Women also feel orgasms, although their orgasms aren’t needed for procreation. As with every other bodily process, what’s going on inside your body during an orgasm is a lot more technical than what you’re feeling.
In a man, first the prostate, seminal vesicles, and upper portion of the vas deferens, called the ampulla, contract, which forces out the secretions that form the ejaculate; then the muscles that surround the penis do their part to actually eject the ejaculate in what is called the Expulsion Phase. The first two or three of these contractions are quite strong, and they’re followed by some diminishing spurts.
For women, the uterus and the first third of the vagina, controlled by the underlying muscles, called the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles, incur the most contractions during orgasm. But, as I’m fond of saying, your main sex organ is located not “down there” but “up here” — in your brain. I offer as proof of this idea men whose spinal cords have been broken; they can have erections and ejaculations but can’t feel any of the sensations. So the real importance of all that heavy breathing, those strong contractions, and those ejaculating spurts is the pleasure that you register from the overall feeling, and that I can’t describe for you; you’ll just have to experience it for yourself.
An orgasm is an intense feeling of physical pleasure that we human beings experience as the culmination of sexual stimulation. When you experience an orgasm, your breathing becomes fast and heavy, your pulse races, the deep muscles in the genital area contract, and your toes may even curl.
In men, orgasm is almost always accompanied by ejaculation, the forceful ejection of semen from the penis, necessary for procreation. Women also feel orgasms, although their orgasms aren’t needed for procreation. As with every other bodily process, what’s going on inside your body during an orgasm is a lot more technical than what you’re feeling.
In a man, first the prostate, seminal vesicles, and upper portion of the vas deferens, called the ampulla, contract, which forces out the secretions that form the ejaculate; then the muscles that surround the penis do their part to actually eject the ejaculate in what is called the Expulsion Phase. The first two or three of these contractions are quite strong, and they’re followed by some diminishing spurts.
For women, the uterus and the first third of the vagina, controlled by the underlying muscles, called the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles, incur the most contractions during orgasm. But, as I’m fond of saying, your main sex organ is located not “down there” but “up here” — in your brain. I offer as proof of this idea men whose spinal cords have been broken; they can have erections and ejaculations but can’t feel any of the sensations. So the real importance of all that heavy breathing, those strong contractions, and those ejaculating spurts is the pleasure that you register from the overall feeling, and that I can’t describe for you; you’ll just have to experience it for yourself.
Women’s orgasms: Several paths to the goal
Female orgasms tend to come in more varieties than male orgasms. Because of that, women’s orgasms have been an issue of contention ever since the days of Sigmund Freud in the early 1900s.
Women have reported experiencing the following types of orgasms:
Clitoral orgasms: These orgasms are triggered by stimulation of the clitoris, either before, during, or after intercourse. The vast majority of orgasms that women have are clitoral.
Vaginal orgasms: These orgasms may actually be triggered by indirect stimulation to the clitoris, or possibly the elusive G spot. The scientific data is not yet in on this issue. Freud labeled these orgasms “mature.”
Orgasms from anal sex: Some women can have orgasms from anal sex. The anus has a lot of nerve endings, but how they may trigger an orgasm is also not known.
Other types: Some women can have an orgasm from having only their breasts stimulated, and many report having an orgasm while asleep when they’ve had no physical stimulation at all.
Despite the variety of orgasms women can have, many women have trouble orgasming at all
Luckily, a considerate and knowledgeable male partner can almost always ensure that his partner ends up sexually satisfied, providing she wants to have an orgasm. The key to achieving satisfaction is good communication. If both partners are on the same wavelength, then both can have orgasms. But if their brains aren’t connected, it won’t matter that their bodies are connected when it comes to the likelihood of the woman having an orgasm. Just like you can exercise the biceps in your arms and the hamstrings in your legs for more strength, you can work out the muscles in your genitals for stronger orgasms. Kegel exercises, which I explain in the next section, were invented for women, but they can also help a man control his orgasms.
(TO be Continued....don't forget to browse this site regularly if u want more information)
Adapted from: Sex for dummies (163-66)
Women have reported experiencing the following types of orgasms:
Clitoral orgasms: These orgasms are triggered by stimulation of the clitoris, either before, during, or after intercourse. The vast majority of orgasms that women have are clitoral.
Vaginal orgasms: These orgasms may actually be triggered by indirect stimulation to the clitoris, or possibly the elusive G spot. The scientific data is not yet in on this issue. Freud labeled these orgasms “mature.”
Orgasms from anal sex: Some women can have orgasms from anal sex. The anus has a lot of nerve endings, but how they may trigger an orgasm is also not known.
Other types: Some women can have an orgasm from having only their breasts stimulated, and many report having an orgasm while asleep when they’ve had no physical stimulation at all.
Despite the variety of orgasms women can have, many women have trouble orgasming at all
Luckily, a considerate and knowledgeable male partner can almost always ensure that his partner ends up sexually satisfied, providing she wants to have an orgasm. The key to achieving satisfaction is good communication. If both partners are on the same wavelength, then both can have orgasms. But if their brains aren’t connected, it won’t matter that their bodies are connected when it comes to the likelihood of the woman having an orgasm. Just like you can exercise the biceps in your arms and the hamstrings in your legs for more strength, you can work out the muscles in your genitals for stronger orgasms. Kegel exercises, which I explain in the next section, were invented for women, but they can also help a man control his orgasms.
(TO be Continued....don't forget to browse this site regularly if u want more information)
Adapted from: Sex for dummies (163-66)
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